Warrior Connection - 04.12.15

April 13, 2015
warrior connection discussed fixing va and suicide prevention--
 

 

Why are so many of our young Military personnel so messed up?

Many people think that Wounded Warrior’s are mainly comprised of those who have gone overseas to defend our Country. That is true to a great extent, but many of those who have not been deployed are also showing symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress.

Why? They haven’t been in combat, or have they? Divorce rate 60%

Most young service members have come from a broken HOME / and LIFE. Their hope, dreams and future was aborted when they were children and it took a toll on their lives.

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What are signs of PTSD. Hypertension, irritability, fear, hyperventilation, hypervisual, you express anger and lack of patience. Then you ISOLATE.

Much of their family history is off the radar and the individual doesn’t talk about their family problems.

The three most destructive substance’s frequently found in broken homes… 1. Alcohol, Drugs (prescr. & illegal) and Porn. They help to create…

2. Domestic abuse and Dysfunctional families go hand in hand. - they both involve POLICE intervention , which becomes embarrassing, frustrating.

3. Spousal and Child abuse

4.a lack of competent child care and nurturing

5. Little to No spiritual guidance in building morality and character growth in the child.

6. DIVORCE = where 1 will leave and 1 will have to work fulltime leaving the kids at home.

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The effects on the child are…

1. Loneliness, boredom, anger, disappointment and blame themselves.

2. A lack in social skill’s , self confidence, self worth and self esteem.

3. There also may a lack of positive role models. So they may follow anyone.

Let your hero’s all be dead, because if they are alive they will disappoint you.

4. The two most important people in your life are separating/ and soon they will both be dating other people and possibly remarrying a stranger.

5. If there are other siblings at home, you may have to become the PARENT and GUARDIAN for them.

6. The Grandparents will have to help finish raising the grandchildren.

* The reason grandparents and grandchildren are so close is that they both have a common enemy, the parent.

--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------The effects…

1. You begin to look to “outsiders” for guidance instead of family.

2. You isolate, mistrust relationships and avoid marriage.

3. You feel like everyone you trust and care about will end up hurting and leaving you. Don’t get too close to anyone.

4. It becomes easy to make “bad choices” in friends because self medicating seems like the right solution. IT’S NOT !

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The Military is a family…It is a close-knit world-wide community of like- minded people who willingly put their lives on hold in order to protect us at home. They risk their lives everyday to keep us free and they are connected by a common mind-set of values, exceptionalism and purpose. They are truly America’s best.

1.Since the conception of America, Young men and women have been joining our military to get away from home and start their own career. They have always come into our military family with past memories, wounds, trauma, brokenness, loneliness, disappointment and anger. They have always been running from something, but not from the amount of broken homes we are seeing today. Many are messed up when they get here.

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How do get ourselves fixed ?

1. We identify our enemy and admit we have a problem. We can’t outrun our problems. When we get to where we’re going, they will already be there.

2. We have to realize what “FEEDS” or FUELS our problems of depression, anger, irritability and hypertension. (Substance use and abuse) Where there is no wood, the fire goes out.

3. You must set you a goal and “FOCUS” on it. (SUNCHIN KATA)

4.You must make better decisions and fewer Regrets. You’ll have to live with them.

5. Choose your friends wisely. You’ll probably end up just like them.

6. Don’t date anyone you wouldn’t want to marry. You might fall in love.

7. Love your spouse and be faithful to them. Your children are depending on you.

8. Be the Best Spouse, Parent, Guardian and HERO of your family(including step-children) treat them like your own.

9. Be willing to STICK it out in your marriage and work things out (maybe professional help.) Your children deserve a good family life.

10. The Best Home Improvement you can do is take your family to Church.

Why ??

1. GOD lives there. It’s fun to worship HIM.

2. They usually have good food, family activities & everyone smells good.

2. There are good “role” models for both parents and children there.

3. Most are good positive people, good mentors and good Teachers to help us to grow into the Best and Happiest people we can be. We need all of the help we can get.

4. GOD is not a crutch for weak people, He is a stretcher for wounded and dying people.

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Well, The ball is now in your court---play it well !!

Thank you

 

 

Life after Trauma #26

Suicide prevention

September is Suicide Prevention month and it is a sad commentary that we have so many suicides among our Military personnel , Veterans and their families. There is a lot of discussion as to what the cause and effects suicide has on the individual and their families and I thought I‘d give you mine.

As a Marine combat veteran who has fought suicidal thoughts for more than forty years, I think I have some ideas on how to cut down on the loss of so many of our national hero’s.

1. One of the contributing factors associated with suicide is the consumption of “substance .” What is the related Substance I’m talking about? It is alcohol and drugs. Special significance must be placed on pharmaceutical drugs. Weather they come from the V.A. or purchased over the counter, mixing drugs and alcohol can be a deadly combination. Drugs are for a specific purpose and come with a prescribed usage. Abusing the directions or mixing them with other substance can have a damaging or deadly effect.

Substance “abuse” may or may not be a contributing factor in the persons life, but just the mere fact that alcohol is being consumed by the depressed person is one of the major culprits that causes the person to think irrationally. They become more depressed, lonely and disconnected from society. The potential for suicide is drastically increased when you mix alcohol and drugs. When you are consuming alcohol and drugs of any amount, you begin to fall “under the influence“ of what you are consuming. You will say and do things that you would not do under normal circumstances. There is also the risk of auto accidents, tickets and increased insurance premiums causing more problems to your career, marriage and self esteem.

This kind of “mixing” substance may push you over the edge as you become more depressed and detached from those around you.

Suicide is undoubtedly the most selfish thing you can do to those you love, and who love you the most. It slams the door shut in the face of everyone who cares about you and leaves them with a lifetime of wondering why you left without first reaching out to someone who could help you.

When Americas Foreign and Domestic enemies read about our military dropping out on the fight against terrorism, I’m sure they are pleased and smile because they will never have to worry about you again. You have actually contributed to their success by eliminating yourself from the battle.

P. 125 TNEW

If you are depressed or discouraged, please reach out for help. There are a lot of people waiting to hear from you. They want to help, but you must make the call. Many of us have wanted to drop out of the race at one time or another, but didn’t. We pushed on in spite of our pain because we knew there were a lot of young people coming behind us and they were looking for us to set a good example for them. They’re now looking at you.

I was taught as a Marine to attack the attacker. When the enemy shows up and attacks you, hit him back twice as hard. It’s simply what good warrior’s do. Semper Fidelis means Always Faithful. (Always) That’s not a cute little saying, it’s a way of life. Stay faithful to God, Country and Corps.

2. Leave a legacy for someone to follow.

3. Nothing is too bad that it can’t be fixed.

To call for help…

Jacksonville Vet Center 910-577-1100

Durham V.A. 888-870-6890

Boots on the Ground 919-907-0577

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Warrior Connection - 04.05.15

April 6, 2015
During the April 5 warrior connection  we  continue our discussion on suicide, medical care, and the va mess and how to correct it in honor of ssg paul lyons.  Draft suggestions include:
 
 

 

 

1.  ALL THE PERTINENT DOCUMENTS ARE FULLY DISTRIBUTED

 

2. VA- DOD LEADERS must  PUBICALLY ADMIT the CORRELATION BETWEEN TOXIC EXPOSURES AND ADVERSE HEALTH EFFECTS as already known in internal reports.

 

3. CONTINUING MEDICAL EDUCATON must be made available and completed such as initiated in the  ATTACHED POWER POINT.  The numerous investigative documentaries must be made available and watched to begin to comprehend and resolve the lingering problems.

 

4.  MEDICAL CARE must be optimized.

 

5. PROMPTNESS

 

6.  STOP OVERT AND HIDDEN RETALIATION

 

7. THOROUGH ENVIRONMENTAL REMEDIATION to mitigate exposures

 

8. ADEQUATE STAFFING

 

9. coordinated medical care appointments

 

10 TELL THE TRUTH ABOUT THESE WARS.  Ethical moral dimension

 

11, REPORT ACTUAL CASUALTIES NOT REDUCED  NUMBERS  

 

 12. crisis line follow up through referral

13. verify definitive treatment- recovery plan.

14. crises intervention team- chaplain, medic,

15. no police swat team intervention unless  chaplain makes call.

16. return all phone calls requests for help before end of day- even if only contact.   

17. thorough support system- action plan.

18. Coordinated family support- notification

19. thorough primary and secondary – historical survey to determine casuals relationships – DD 2796

19. coordinated best friend(s) coordination

20 do not give referral back to failed group – team

 

 

 

1.  ALL THE PERTINENT DOCUMENTS ARE FULLY DISTRIBUTED

 

2. VA- DOD LEADERS must  PUBICALLY ADMIT the CORRELATION BETWEEN TOXIC EXPOSURES AND ADVERSE HEALTH EFFECTS as already known in internal reports.

 

3. CONTINUING MEDICAL EDUCATON must be made available and completed such as initiated in the  ATTACHED POWER POINT.  The numerous investigative documentaries must be made available and watched to begin to comprehend and resolve the lingering problems.

 

4.  MEDICAL CARE must be optimized.

 

5. PROMPTNESS

 

6.  STOP OVERT AND HIDDEN RETALIATION

 

7. THOROUGH ENVIRONMENTAL REMEDIATION to mitigate exposures

 

8. ADEQUATE STAFFING

 

9. coordinated medical care appointments

 

10 TELL THE TRUTH ABOUT THESE WARS.  Ethical moral dimension

 

11, REPORT ACTUAL CASUALTIES NOT REDUCED  NUMBERS  

 

 12. crisis line follow up through referral

13. verify definitive treatment- recovery plan.

14. crises intervention team- chaplain, medic,

15. no police swat team intervention unless  chaplain makes call.

16. return all phone calls requests for help before end of day- even if only contact.   

17. thorough support system- action plan.

18. Coordinated family support- notification

19. thorough primary and secondary – historical survey to determine casuals relationships – DD 2796

19. coordinated best friend(s) coordination

20 do not give referral back to failed group – team


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Warrior Connection - 03.29.15

March 30, 2015
This episode of Warrior Connection is dedicated to SSG Paul Lyons.
 

One of Paul's last emails:

I have had the privilege to have co-hosted With Doug Rokke And Denise Nichols on Gary Nulls Radio Station, known as "The Progressive Radio Network", out of New York City, regarding the various exposures that occurred during Desert Storm, whether they be concerning Depleted Uranium, Biological Warfare, and Chemical exposures; not to mention experimental shots with records of them being given as well as Nerve Agent pre-Treatment pills that we were ordered to take, that occurred during Operation Desert Storm. I and well over 275K Troops are said to be on the Gulf War Registry. I have also been exposed...I have two post war Children who are also sick, including my wife. How's that for a "Welcome Home Party"? The VA and DOD Need to Restart  their Children and Spouse Health Registry and get with program! We didn't ask for this and I DAMN sure wouldn't have intentionally exposed my Wife and now my sick post Gulf War Children, had I known that the birth defects and Illnesses were transmittable...This has been a NIGHTMARE for my wife and I. Someone In The Federal Government needs To Pick up the dropped ball and GET WITH THE PROGRAM!! We Also Need New Congressional Hearing's, from somebody in Congress with the backbone and fortitude of Former US Senator Donald Riegle, (R) Who saw the problem back in the early 1990's and held hearings, trying to get to the TRUTH of Gulf WAR Illnesses and now we have possible OIF exposures as well. This Government needs to settle this most important issue once and for all....If our current CBRN, also known as NBC gear is faulty, then let's fix the problem...WE know it there are GAPS, so let's FIX IT!!

 

and from ray clark:

Life after Trauma #26
Suicide prevention
September is Suicide Prevention month and it is a sad commentary that we have so many suicides among our Military personnel , Veterans and their families. There is a lot of discussion as to what the cause and effects suicide has on the individual and their families and I thought I‘d give you mine.
As a Marine combat veteran who has fought suicidal thoughts for more than forty years, I think I have some ideas on how to cut down on the loss of so many of our national hero’s.
1. One of the contributing factors associated with suicide is the consumption of “substance .” What is the related Substance I’m talking about? It is alcohol and drugs. Special significance must be placed on pharmaceutical drugs. Weather they come from the V.A. or purchased over the counter, mixing drugs and alcohol can be a deadly combination. Drugs are for a specific purpose and come with a prescribed usage. Abusing the directions or mixing them with other substance can have a damaging or deadly effect.
Substance “abuse” may or may not be a contributing factor in the persons life, but just the mere fact that alcohol is being consumed by the depressed person is one of the major culprits that causes the person to think irrationally. They become more depressed, lonely and disconnected from society. The potential for suicide is drastically increased when you mix alcohol and drugs. When you are consuming alcohol and drugs of any amount, you begin to fall “under the influence“ of what you are consuming. You will say and do things that you would not do under normal circumstances. There is also the risk of auto accidents, tickets and increased insurance premiums causing more problems to your career, marriage and self esteem.
This kind of “mixing” substance may push you over the edge as you become more depressed and detached from those around you.
Suicide is undoubtedly the most selfish thing you can do to those you love, and who love you the most. It slams the door shut in the face of everyone who cares about you and leaves them with a lifetime of wondering why you left without first reaching out to someone who could help you.
When Americas Foreign and Domestic enemies read about our military dropping out on the fight against terrorism, I’m sure they are pleased and smile because they will never have to worry about you again. You have actually contributed to their success by eliminating yourself from the battle.
P. 125 TNEW
If you are depressed or discouraged, please reach out for help. There are a lot of people waiting to hear from you. They want to help, but you must make the call. Many of us have wanted to drop out of the race at one time or another, but didn’t. We pushed on in spite of our pain because we knew there were a lot of young people coming behind us and they were looking for us to set a good example for them. They’re now looking at you.
I was taught as a Marine to attack the attacker. When the enemy shows up and attacks you, hit him back twice as hard. It’s simply what good warrior’s do. Semper Fidelis means Always Faithful. (Always) That’s not a cute little saying, it’s a way of life. Stay faithful to God, Country and Corps.
2. Leave a legacy for someone to follow.
3. Nothing is too bad that it can’t be fixed.
To call for help…
Jacksonville Vet Center 910-577-1100
Durham V.A. 888-870-6890
Boots on the Ground 919-907-0577
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Warrior Connection - 02.15.15

February 20, 2015
Feb 15 Warrior Connection featured a discussion with Chris Martini about PRN's "Gulf War Illiness- Killing our Own" that Gary and him along with other PRN family did (garynull.com)  then a discussion about Chris' new feature film "Trooper"
 
 

Cast: Christopher Martini, Gary Swanson, Max Martini, Robert Walden, Eddie Manley, Suzanne DiDonna, Jerry Della Salla, Richard Levine, Giada Dobrzenska, Kevin Mambo, Sayra Player
Genre: Drama | War | Romance 
Writer / Director / Producer: Christopher Martini
Production Company: Triple Martini Productions, Denarius Entertainment, Little Wonder Films

Murphy OShea, an Iraq Veteran, has a hard time re-adjusting to society upon his return from a long tour. His world crumbles when he discovers his father, Bill, a Vietnam Veteran, is dying. Trooper is a story of a father and son, two veterans from two very different Wars, helping each other to get through each day, and heal the wounds of War.

"TROOPER" – A Film by Christopher Martini 
iTunes Canada - 
http://bit.ly/Trooper-iTunesCA   
iTunes USA - 
http://bit.ly/Trooper-iTunesUS       
Google Play - 
http://bit.ly/Trooper-GooglePlay   
PlayStation - 
http://bit.ly/Trooper-PlayStation-CA                       
Xbox - 
http://bit.ly/Trooper-Xbox                                               
Shaw Cable - 
http://bit.ly/Tropper-ShawVOD  
Vimeo on Demand – 
https://vimeo.com/ondemand/trooper 
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Warrior Connection - 02.01.15

February 1, 2015
Captain David Winnett- USMC  retired discussed his poetry, his 20 years in the corps as both enlisted and officer, his  ongoing work as a veterans advocate, his web site "gulf war illiness", and his work on CDMRP review board. We all so mentioned  Gary Null's - Chris Martini's PRN documentary "Killing Our Own"  and then Chris Martini's feature film "TROOPER" that resulted from the earlier exceptional PRN efforts .   David's poetry is archived here for all to read and contemplate.  David's poetry comes from the heart of a warrior.
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Warrior Connection - 01.25.15

January 25, 2015

A continuation of our discussion with Ray Clark on PTSD using the new Clint Eastwood movie starring Bradley Cooper as Chris Kale in American Sniper as a stimuli.

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Warrior Connection - Those Who Remain - 01.18.15

January 18, 2015
We had a excellent discussion with author and Vietnam War Army widow Ruth Crocker about her book  "Those Who Remain- Remembrance and Reunion After War".  Ruth married US Army Captain and West Point graduate David Crocker during the build up of the Vietnam War who then became commander of Alpha company 2/22 Infantry. David was killed during combat operations on May 17, 1969 when he was only 25 and Ruth about 23.  The story is also about Ruth's transformation after such a loss and how she found, met, and became family with the survivors of David's company years after the end of the war.  She then learned about the profound impact David had on these men during Nam and still does even years after his death.  It is a story as stated on the book cover about "resilience and emotional transformation following heartbreaking loss demonstrating the tenacious will of the human spirit to heal"  Ruth  who after her loss went back to college and  earned  her Ph.D. in nutrition also briefly discussed the impact of nutrition on stress and health and healing. We have invited her to join Warrior Connection once more in the near future to discuss nutritional aspects that we need to follow for our health optimization.  Ruth is available for talks in support of veterans and families.  
 
Ruth's must read book is available at www.ruthcroker.com, amazon.com, and via bookstores. 
The following websites contain additional beneficial information:
 
www.vietnamtripledeuce.org
www.22ndinfantry.org
www.goldstarwives.org
www.peacetreesvietnam.org
 
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Warrior Connection - 01.11.15

January 12, 2015

We discussed upcoming IOM meetings and reviewed medical data and concepts.

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Warrior Connection - 12.28.14

December 30, 2014

During the December 28th edition of warrior connection author and USMC Vietnam vet Ray Clark and i discussed the impact of Christmas - Thanksgiving on the warrior and PTSD.

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Warrior Connection - 12.21.14

December 22, 2014
The December 21 edition of Warrior Connection was a discussion with vietnam era US Marine Corps veteran Ray Clark about PTSD and the book he and his wife wrote " THE NEVER ENDING WAR". Ray provides an inside and intense glimpse of war and the lingering effects of PTSD.
 
  http://www.theneverendingwar.com/
 
www.tatepublishing.com/bookstore
 
Also via amazon and bookstores.
 
Ray and his wife Laura through the book provide some essential insight and methods to deal with PTSD.
This is a must read book for those affected by PTSD and those providing care and support.  
We will have Ray and Laura on Warrior Connection again in the future to continue our and their efforts to help vets.
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